Don’t settle for crumbs … Do you forgo your SELF in order to be needed, to feel loved? Breadcrumbing is when someone gives you a few crumbs to keep you interested and, in their life, but they don’t really care about a true loving relationship or connection with you. That person that suggests that holiday […]
Words not matching actions are called manipulations and refusing to be held accountable is called gaslighting. Gaslighting is a manipulative tool that abusers use to gaslight their victims. Narcissistic Abuse is manipulation. Someone who says they love you, but cheats, lies, hurts you, does not love you. Someone who says they will change but their […]
Happiness – it’s all inside you, Happiness chemicals make you feel better, you can naturally release happy hormones. The 4 Happy hormones; Dopamine Oxytocin Serotonin Endorphin Here’s some tips on how I hack my Happiness hormones: Dopamine (The Reward Chemical) I set myself a small task, when I was deeply grieving my sister it was […]
Co-dependency is often confused with being needed and feeling loved. Maybe you were emotionally starved in childhood, so this feels like love. In codepency you are actually doing the emotional work for the other person in exchange for their temporary approval and attention, once you start working on yourself, putting yourself first, your need for […]
This is a very common trauma response and I see many clients in our first few sessions conducting themselves in this manner. And this is ok, because it is these patterns of behaviour that have kept them feeling safe, to be able to carry on their day to day life. Our autonomic nervous system (ANS) […]
“Trauma is not what happens to you; trauma is what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you”