This is a very common trauma response and I see many clients in our first few sessions conducting themselves in this manner. And this is ok, because it is these patterns of behaviour that have kept them feeling safe, to be able to carry on their day to day life. Our autonomic nervous system (ANS) works to protect us and keep us safe. Which is why our mamillian part of our brain serves by signaling fight, flight or freeze mode (I talk more about this in another blog). Our brain has developed over time and more recently we recognise a Fawn response.
Over explaining and over sharing are a Fawn trauma response. As children we learn quickly what we need to do and how we need to act to feel safe. This is an instinctual response with a need to avoid conflict at any cost.
Trauma can keep you stuck in a loop from your past. People pleasing may be a reason why you stay in places or relationships longer than you should have. The great news is that you can rewire your neural pathways and re-root, creating new habits and patterns of behaviour.
If you can resonate with any of what I’ve described , do get in touch. I offer a free 20 minute discovery call, which you can book via the calendly link on my website. Taking care of your whole SELF; mind, body and soul and recharging your battery is where the journey starts, and I can give you the tools to heal.
Don’t suffer in silence, I’ve been where you are.