Do you forgo your SELF in order to be needed, to feel loved? Breadcrumbing is when someone gives you a few crumbs to keep you interested and, in their life, but they don’t really care about a true loving relationship or connection with you. That person that suggests that holiday together, the person that says they will support you at an event, that text promising a coffee soon but they have no interest in actually meeting up. Breadcrumbing is manipulative, if you start seeing this pattern of behaviour in someone, you have it all in you to stop it. Tell them how it makes you feel. You don’t have to accept their manipulation. If they keep doing this, don’t respond, their manipulation only affects you and works if you continue engaging.
People that use these tactics, have no remorse for their actions or behaviour, they don’t want to change, in fact they don’t see any wrong in themselves. DO NOT blame yourself just because they make you feel that way, often their childhood experiences have made them this way, it’s not you. You can let go of the guilt or shame they put upon you through their projections. Abuse is never ever ever your fault. Psychological manipulation is abuse, you may have heard it called Coercive control or narcissistic abuse. Emotional abuse can and will make your body go into dis- ease if you allow it, affecting you mind, body, soul and spirit. As a victim of breadcrumbing it is normal to be trauma bonded to the abuser, believing this is love.
You are worthy of relationships in which you are treated with respect, prioritised and valued. Stop investing in people who only speak to you when they have nothing else to do.
You are worthy
You are loved
You are valued
Don’t let someone’s emotional inconsistency, make you addicted to temporary highs and constant lows. Don’t settle for crumbs.
If you can resonate with any of what I’ve described , do get in touch. I offer a free 20 minute discovery call, which you can book via the calendly link on my website. Taking care of your whole SELF; mind, body and soul and recharging your battery is where the journey starts, and I can give you the tools to heal.
Don’t suffer in silence, I’ve been where you are.